I am having a bit of an angry day and I had this whole idea about this post that I want to write about my Primary Care Physician, but I’ll give that another week because today this woman came up to me and offered me the best material! So here it is. Hold on to your chairs.

Today it happened to me for the first time. People told me it would come, but it hadn’t and I felt like I must be surrounding myself with the best kind of people who never say/do the wrong thing because everyone has been fantastic! Or maybe there was a new YouTube video on what to say or not say to people just diagnosed with cancer, because again-no mistakes yet. I mean, the only people that tell me they “Hope I feel better” are under the age of 10 and I just think it’s cool that cancer doesn’t terrify them so I’m okay with that.

So this lady comes up to me and asks me if I have looked into any alternative treatments for cancer. I stared at her blankly, because she didn’t strike me as the “Rick Simpson” type and then she says, “because there is a lot of research about nutrition and I’m just wondering if you have looked into it.” She goes on about how sugar is the WORST thing that I could eat and I’m basically feeding my cancer and I need to eliminate all sugars including sugars from fruits and vegetables from my diet for at least for a month and sugar is in everything so I should be careful, but that she is really serious. Seriously?

I mean. I get it. Nutrition is important. I love food and my people know it and so I’m into the cookbooks and the miracle broth and eating of all the cruciferous vegetables. Bring it. I mean a bunch of kale a day keeps the doctor away am I right? But Seriously, lady?

Cause here’s the thing. I’ve had a few cousins who have had cancer. One who did all of the “alternative treatments” and she died. And one who did none of them? And he’s still alive (thank goodness). And the third one was a fucking child and he died too. And guess what lady? NONE of them should have died. Cancer is just that fucked up. NONE of us should have had to deal with this.

THIS anxiety of having my hair fall out and THIS worry about whether or not I will see my kids grow up and THIS research about what to eat while I have cancer.


So scoop me a bowl of ice cream and hand me a glass of wine or shut the fuck up.

this should not be happening


  1. Every thought, every emotion is entirely correct for YOU! Keep on sharing the good, the bad and the ugly. Those that love you – love you in every facet. The rest are ignorant and may never be enlightened. I pity the fools. mad Cruser luv


  2. When my dad had cancer, we had to get some sort of special water filter, and had to cut out everything alkaline [I think????], and he drank some sort of beetle tea from the Chinese herbalist. Like he was actually drinking DEAD BUG TEA!! Let me know if you want some beetle tea and I’ll try to find some for you 😉


    1. Love how reading Facebook makes people a doctor or nutrition expert. I will bring you a bottle and a pint….along with one of each for me.


  3. Love your response to unsolicited advice from idiots. There are a lot of them out there. I will have wine in your honor! And say screw the idiots! Love, light & hugs!

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  4. I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago and your posts have been forwarded to me several times by different friends.
    I have surgery tomorrow and have been on this whirlwind of how could my life be so different now, I hate this, fuck cancer but wow friends do make it better journey. It is crazy. Best to you, I hope you laugh as much as you can like I did having my prep appointment while sitting in my car waiting for triple A to come jump start my car. Life is really unreasonable. Most People are awesome but some suck. Keep writing.


  5. Hey Mags, there are only 3people you need to listen to………your doctors,yourself, and me! YOU are the best judge of how you feel and what you need. And if you need a glass/bottle of wine, and you don’t want beetle tea, then that’s the way it should be. You are a wise young woman and you will always know what’s best for yourself. Love you bunches!!


  6. Hi Maggie. I know you through friends at DCF (I used to work in Barre) and I’ve been following your blog (I love your writing, I hate that you and your family, or any person has to go through this). And I agree, eat the ice cream, drink the wine, do what brings you joy and that woman should shut her pie hole. I also have a very close friend, my bestie from high school, who survived breast cancer.
    Love and strength to you,


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